Ethan's Age

Tuesday, July 3, 2012

Formula Moms are not the Devil...

It's been a long time since I've posted.  There are several reasons for this.

First off, I am busy with my son all day.  I read some blogs where they are able to post daily or at least several times a week, and I wonder... how the hell do you find the time to do this?  I'm amazed!



Secondly, I've felt a bit torn about what this blog will turn into.  I don't want it to become a mundane daily vomit of all the neato things my kid does (have I mentioned that he sits now?)  I certainly don't plan to discuss all the gross things he does either (potty talk anyone?)  I spent the afternoon at a Young House Love blog talk and realized, they have a specific focus for the blog, which is what makes it successful for them.  For me, other than my over-use of commas, my main focus was my journey through infertility.  However, sitting with my adorable little man has made this focus less of a need for my blogging... and now I find myself with little to say.  ZOMG MY KID IS SO CUTE.



Thirdly, I want to make sure everyone knows that I am reading many of your blogs.  I keep up with them daily, and try to comment from time to time too.

Which brings me to today's topic.  Breastfeeding.

Now,my intent when bringing my little dude into the world was OF COURSE I'LL BREASTFEED!  However, the world had another plan.  With him losing much weight near the beginning of life, and us having trouble finding a groove for many weeks... I made the heart wrenching decision to supplement, and then finally go completely to formula.  I've not talked much about this, because the general concensus is that formula moms are lazy, and generally aren't conscious of the OMG HARM they are doing to their kid.  Before I get into that, please note that my son (who is the cutest kid of all time) is doing great.  He is well fed, meeting milestones, not overweight/underweight and probably will be a model for awesomeness. (Note: yes, breast feeding is best.  No argument here.)




However, over the past few months I've fielded ignorant, judgmental comments about how awful it is to make that choice and I'm setting him up for basically failure.  (Sort of like cooking him, which I've tried.)


The last straw for me, and the reason I'm posting, is this article. (Posted on facebook by a friend who had the best intents, but it set off a fire in me.)  I'm sure the author had nothing but good intents, but I found it really horrid to read.  What I got out of it (admittedly, I'm defensive on the topic, and thus no doubt found it much more adversarial than most) was that breastfeeding was great (agreed) and if you don't it's cause you are lazy and don't try hard enough... not to mention that you don't love your kid.  (Or love bonding with them.)



Speaking as a formula mother (and hopefully more of us will come out of the woodwork) my son and I bonded just fine, and we are in love with each other.  Another side effect of bottle feeding is that not only am I in love with my son by sharing feeding time, but so is my husband.



So, those of you out there who:
-fought hard to breastfeed and couldn't...
-weren't able to make that choice because of circumstances out of your control
-adopted your little one, and thus it wasn't an option
or otherwise had to make a gut-wrenching choice.... You are ok.  Your child is ok.



Those of you who are breastfeeding... good for you!  I envy you.  However, stop judging us.  Or at least know that if you say something to us that is ignorant or hurtful, we will respond.

Yeah.  That's a Formula 'Stache

I love my son more than life itself, and to imply otherwise will awaken the beast.  Remember, don't anger the makers of the tiny humans... they will eat you alive.


3 comments:

  1. Bravo! I hate the whole breast/bottle feeding debate. It's so unfair. What are we women doing to each other when we engage in this?? To imply anything about your relationship with your child because of one decision you've made is ridiculous. I breastfed four babies - luckily it was easy for me - but I'm sure I do other things that would qualify me as a "bad" mom. Your son is darling!

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    1. Who knows... maybe it's the idea that everyone seems to think that they know best... so why would anyone do differently? I'm sure I am like this on some topic, but I try to be sensitive to other people's parenting/care styles.

      Thank you! I love him muchly!

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  2. Who knows... maybe it's the idea that everyone seems to think that they know best... so why would anyone do differently? I'm sure I am like this on some topic, but I try to be sensitive to other people's parenting/care styles.

    Thank you! I love him muchly!

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