Ethan's Age

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

30 year fixed, Chud, Movement, and Midwives

Well, this week has been very busy thus far.

On the house front, we were able to get all the funding paperwork in (who knew that FHA was such a pain in their particular ways of doing things?)  With some loving TLC from the Mother, and the Parents-in-Law, we were able to get all the pieces of paper that mattered to the people it mattered for.

Today, we sat down at a large desk in an oversized office, and deinked some pens, as we slowly signed our life (at least until 2042) away on a novel legal sized, small type documents.

Yes, we know we don't own the house until we pay it off.
Yes, we understand that if we don't pay our morgage, we can't stay there.
Yes, we realize that we've sold our souls to an HOA for 90.00/quarter.
Yes, we acknowledge that our first born belongs to the Federal Government.

As we sit here, icing our fingers from the amount of signing we had to do today, I can't help but think that just by 1 hour worth of signing paperwork... we became homeowners.  The actual owners sign tomorrow, and then funding should be released to the proper people (including the people who know own our lives for the next 30 years...) and then the house is ours.  The current owners are renting the house from us for a month, and we are set to start our slow move in process August 1st.

I'm consistantly surprised that it was that easy to somehow join into this huge committment of the house.  However, the large committment still looms.

That one, of course, is the life time job of being a parent.

Jon wanted to name our future children Chud and Freuhauser.  Since our dog is named Freuhauser, it seemed only fair that the fetus (while it has no gender assigned to it) is dubbed Chud.  (This is despite my assertions that our Roomba, whom I named Chud, was sufficient enough use of the name.  However, this is not the topic for an argument.)

Chud is cooking at the 17 week temperature right now, and is doing great.  The revelation came yesterdy as I was sitting at my desk and I felt Chud move.  There had been a couple of times I wondered, but this time I knew.  It felt much like the twitching you get when your muscles spazzes out behind your eye.  Light, but noticable only to me.  Jon has gotten more and more attached to this "it's a person in there" idea, and has been demanding Chud time, where he proceeds to fall asleep with his hand on my belly.  It's super cute, and it's even more cute how coy he is about it.

I've been getting my general energy back, but am still hit with waves of exhaustion that seem to hit near the end of the day, or just randomly.  I'm showing enough, though, to get away with the "pregnant lady's gotta sit!" announcement.  I'm not super big yet, which makes me feel a bit better, because for a while there I felt like a house.  I already have one of those. Later on, when I'm in my house, I will feel smaller than a house.  I read that I am ok to gain 1-2 pounds a week now (which I'm hoping will stay in the 1 pound range, but obviously I'm not being anything but conscious of what I am putting in my body.)  Lately, my body wants more fluids (which since I've been drinking a couple gaterades a day I've not had leg cramps) and french fries.  Yummy.  

I'd really like to track down a reasonably priced prenatal yoga class, which you'd think my current employer would have (I work for a non-profit which among other things, also manages several gyms in the area.)  However, my search has been less than fruitful.  I need some sort of low impact exercise, and I'm not into the idea of squeezing into a bathing suit.  Yoga or Pilates seems like the best option, as it will also help with flexibility and breathing in labor.

Jon and I have spent a lot of time talking about birth plans lately, and I've been very firm that I want to have a natural birth.  I keep going back to a Birthing Center that is located here in town that a friend used.  It has water birthing options (an idea that didn't previously seem attractive to me, but it's grown on me.)  Jon, being the patient guy he is, has listened, asked lots of questions and slowly warmed up to the idea of birthing outside of a hospital.  I've spent hours upon hours researching, and after several books, movies and articles, I am convinced that hospital birthing is not for me.

However, this is a huge paradigm shift for Jon, as he was always of the mindset that birth occurs in a hospital.  After patiently (and sometimes impatiently) listening to my assertions, he has agreed that I can take the lead (and actually get into the idea of) this one and we have a tour set for this Friday at the center that I would like to use.  I'm really excited to meet with the midwives there and get more information, but thankfully I've got two insiders there (a fellow blogger who works there, and a friend who recently birthed there) to give me an inside scoop.  What I hear is nothing but great things.

We will be finding out the sex of the baby sometime next month.  We plan to keep it secret until right before I go on my out of country trip, where we will tell my in-laws right before I leave, and then my family up at the family cabin in Toronto.  Super exciting, and a fun thing to reveal!

Monday, June 20, 2011

Epic Baby Update

Well, it only seems fair that after the Epic House Update, that I make an Epic Baby Update too!

I'm going into my 4th month now, and things are cruising right along.

I have a baby bump:
This is actually last week!

I met with a midwife today, and wasn't super impressed by their organization.  They were almost 30 minutes late calling me into my appointment.  Then, really, though she was knowledgeable, and fine... I didn't really feel connected with them.  With my doula, it was automatic, I felt comfortable.  There is a connection.  I want to feel that way about my midwife as well.

Thankfully, there is one more option up where we are moving, and they are the clinic that we planned on using for pediatric and PCP care anyway.  So, I'm hoping that I can interview them, if not, I will need to make an actual appointment to meet the gal.

In a week or so, I have an OB appt, where sadly, all I will hear is the heartbeat. I want to demand an ultrasound, but I'm pretty sure that costs extra.  I will want to do one in the middle of July though, as that is when I'd find out the sex of the baby!  Wheeee!

I've felt a couple things that might have been movement, but I'm not sure.  I wish I knew for sure!  I'm firmly in maternity clothes and most of the office is now aware that there is a fetus on board.  There are actually days that I don't feel like I wake up and got hit by a bus.  Today was not one of those days, however they now exist from time to time.  I also eat ALL. THE. TIME.

Friday, June 17, 2011

Epic House Update

Lately, Blogger has been having trouble loading my pictures.  I was going to post this awesome walk through of our new house, but for some reason it’s just not happening.  So, sadly, you will need to wait until we move in and I’m able to take my own (not realtor) photos.  At that point, I will do a fun tour.

So, in the past month, we moved from prospective to actual homebuyers, with all the twists and turns therein.  I had no idea how complicated buying a house could be, but our experience has been relatively painless. 

We saw this house on a Saturday, and it had been on the market for less than 3 days.  I recall walking in, and my first words were “I want to live here.”  All of the other places had something major wrong with it, or we would say “well, we could make this work.”  This one worked.  Perfectly.  As is.

The place was decorated beautifully, and flattering to the space.  The paint on the walls even, was neutral and yet still beautiful.  They had done several upgrades (which we saw even more-so when we looked at photos from a comp home down the street.)  In the backyard is a beautiful water feature, which is right above the master bedroom, so when you open the window, all you can hear is the waterfall. 

We came back on Sunday with the parents, with the goal of finding flaws in the house.  The parents, both sets, tend to have strong opinions, we could count on them saying “wow, this isn’t so good” or other critical eye thoughts.  They loved it, we loved it. 

So, off we went to the realtor’s office, and we wrote up a full price offer.  We didn’t want to lose the house over a quibble of a couple thousand dollars, so we were willing to do so.  Then we waited.  Later in the evening, we received a phone call saying that they accepted our offer, with the contingency that they wanted to close by a certain date, and rent from us for a month.  This made sense as they probably needed to free up the money they would get from selling the house to buy a new one.  We had no problem with this, because we wanted to move in late summer anyway.  So, our official possession date will be August 1st.

We were obviously nervous as we met the inspector at the house the following week.  Were there dead bodies in the wall?  Were there no pillars on load bearing walls?  What was wrong with this house?  Was it too good to be true?  A perfect house, in our budget seemed too good to be true.

The inspection went totally well, there were VERY minor corrections, which the seller fixed for us.  We have a re-inspection coming up in the next week to make sure that all the corrections were made properly.  (The one issue was some missing flashing on the roof, and some dry rot in the window sills.  We want to make sure this work was done, and done properly.)

So, that’s where we are at with the house itself.  We are in a holding pattern as we wait for the underwriter to write up our loan documents, which we are scheduled to sign on June 30th, when we officially own the house, and then for the month of July the previous owners will rent from us.  August 1st is our official day we get the keys, etc. 

So, that’s our 3 Bed, 2 Bath update.  In the next few days, I will be doing a “1 Baby” update.  I will also be picking the winner of the contest soon.